Right now I am hoping that I am at rounding the corner at the end of the "TERRIBLE" stages in children growing up. When I say terrible I am referring to the terrible twos, three's, and yes even four's. It has been really hard over the years dealing with all the different temper tantrums and fits but we have made it and gotten by. Right now with my daughter about to be four she has more of a vocabulary now and more attitude, you would think that I am already dealing with a teenager sometimes. Most of the time when she is having one of her fits and I get after her for it or discipline her for it I feel like a horrible mother and that I must not be doing something right for her to be acting this way. I feel like I am always having to fuss at her daily and it is tiring and upsetting because I don't want to have to be that way. I have to remind myself often that she is just three and that she is still figuring things out and finding her way, which includes pushing her limits to see what she can and cant do. As hard as it gets or as emotional as I get about things sometimes when I have hit the point of not knowing what to do, all you can do is pick yourself back up and know that your doing your best. If a certain approach isn't working try another one, try and try again and it will get better. In this area being a single parent is hard because you have no one there to help enforce the rules and back you up on disciplining, so don't get down on yourself. What helps me is to focus on the good times and things they do like hugs and kisses for no reason or when she tells me she loves me and that I am the best mom. Times like that make all the bad times and fussing feel better because after all of it you know that your still their world and they love you unconditionally.
I found a good site that has helpful hints on the terrible stages:
http://www.cnn.com/2011/08/25/living/terrible-twos-myth-parenting/index.html
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